So you've decided you want to be a model, you've had a few shoots and everyone tells you how awesome you're doing and how amazing you look. This is great for a short pick-me-up confidence boost isn't it! And it's great if you only want to be doing it cos you have fun and know people with cameras who can take photos for you. But thats not what being a model is all about. We work with a tonne of aspiring models here at Model Citizen so I have a unique perspective on this whole thing.
Look, whether you believe me or not being a model is a lot of hard work! The great majority of models in New Zealand, even the paid ones are not working full time as a model, the industry here is just too teeny tiny. That is not to say you cannot be a model part time or possibly take off into the big leagues, but for most people its not really even going to pay the bills- atleast not all the time. So you have to have a back up plan, you need to hustle your ass off and when you get a modelling job you need to be working those contacts and make sure you are working super hard too!
Whats more, while those few shoots you did at the start may have helped you boost your confidence short term, soon you will notice you're taking a lot of hard knocks! You're not booking any paid gigs, you keep getting told you're not the type of look they are going for which can leave you feeling a little deflated at best or leave you feeling worse off self-confidence wise than when you started. You have got to have thick skin! The thicker the better. Often you just wont be they type of person they are looking for and that is fine, every once and a while you will come across downright mean people in the industry though, they might say you're too fat, maybe your butts too big, i've even had one girl I knowtell me how someone said her lips were too big and to watch out or she might trip over them!
One of the hardest things for me to watch is when friends decide they could do a bit of modelling but they have "not-so-great" confidence. As I mentioned a little earlier at first thier friends click likes and they get a bit of an inflation of self confidence. After about 3-5 times it becomes "just that thing you do", the likes dwindle quite a bit and I have several friends say they just don't feel like people even think they are attractive anymore. CODSWALLOP! You're no more or less attractive than you were before I assure you, people have just been desensitised to your awesome images! After this stage many people give up as they are not getting the confidence boost they need, some however continue on because its something they love and gain some traction with an fb page or modelling profile on some of the sites that specialise in them.
Anyway, my point is, if you really want to be a model you need to be in it for the right reasons. If your confidence is lacking and you feel cruddy about yourself it's quite likely not gunna help. Build yourself up, treat yourself like you deserve, figure out what makes you "you" and if you want to do photoshoots for fun, do it! If you want to be a model then do that too. When you're in it for the right reasons it is much easier to deal with the knocks, and come out on top.
Next week our first magazine comes out! If you want to grab a copy when it first comes out head on up to that blue semi circle and sign on up. It has some great articles on all sorts of stuff like food, !!!dealing with christmas stress and features some cool stuff I found around the net this month! It's the first of hopefully many to come!
Now it's your turn
What is one thing you do to keep your confidence up, do you rely on outward influences like Facebook likes or do you have a secret weapon that helps you feel good about yourself. Let us know about it in the comments below.
Special thanks to Jasmine who did this shoot way back in april at the george hotel! Isn't she stunning! You can check out some of her work on her fb page. Go on over and give her a like, she gets up to some fun looking shoots.